As the culmination of my birthday week, I was gifted with a day of paragliding along the south coast of the UK. My ever so wise partner offered it to me as an experiment in surrender and deepening my trust in others. I came to see that flow is less about something we create and more about harnessing what is ever-present. This was evident when I asked Dave, my guide, how long it takes to learn how to do this. He said the hard part is not learning the flying skills, but rather learning how to read and leverage the wind. I have continually found the same to be true in teaching narrative coaching skills. This work is based in a deep trust in and commitment to the field and the flow more than anything else.
Some reflections for your day
What is your story about your role?
How can you simplify your coaching?
What if you used the 'wind' as your guide?
Who would you need to trust more deeply?
Five lessons I learned which may help you in your practice:
Create such safety and transparency that people can be fully in the experience rather than trying to control their environment.
Sense and follow the natural flow of the wind, like in rising thermals, rather than trying to take the conversation somewhere.
Focus on moving into the sky (where you are headed) not worrying about how far you are from the ground (where you came from).
Watch for others who can serve as guides for finding the new path forward rather than feeling you need to do it all on your own.
Trust that everything you need is right in front of you; pay attention to what you can learn from and pivot toward in this moment.