The latter, Seung Chan Lim (Slim) wrote: Many of the kinds of things you say are identical to the kinds of things the best art directors would often say to designers when they are helping them resolve the composition. Art directors don't know what design is going to emerge. If they did, what they're doing would not be "creative." They don't direct in the "telling other people what to do," sense, they direct the designer's attentions to what they see, how they feel, etc in relation to the object being designed.
I love this notion of "resolve the composition", especially as it is done through emergence and experimentation. I am increasingly convinced that the resolution to people's issues or questions in coaching is already present. What emerges in coaching is a manifestation of a developmental process that is already underway, not something we need to make happen. It is about letting the proverbial muddy waters clear through our radical presence. As noted above, our role then is to invite people being coached to attend to what they see in new ways, to notice more deeply what they feel, and to make new associations between the pieces of their stories and their desired aspiration.
In this sense, resolution is about bringing what is already there into sharper focus not (re-)solving a problem (though this often happens quite readily as a fortunate byproduct of the process). When people make their way to the crux of the matter this way, they are in a much better position to engage with the other meaning (and pronunciation) of the word, "resolve": "to decide firmly on a course of action." This speaks to the practice of fierce compassion and I find the results from narrative coaching are more lasting often because of the way the process helps people make shifts at their core level.
Questions for today:
• What do you need to resolve by bringing into greater focus?
• What do you need to resolve by bringing closure and letting go?
• What would resolve on its own if you stopped trying so hard?
• What do you want to apply your resolve to in your work/life?
As we say in this work, "Everything you need is right in front of you." "Drop into the experience whilst serving as its most fiercely curious and compassionate advocate. Bring attention to what seems essential."
Here's to your journey to let it be so . . .
Dr David Drake is the founder of the field of Narrative Coaching.