As I continue through the alphabet in this weekly series, it was fitting that the letter "I" came around this week. There is something quite intimate about the loss of someone close as it brings you profoundly in touch with what is most essential about your life. For example, I reflected that while Ann was so vital and generous (hallmarks of intimacy), she seemed to struggle to really let others in. It is something I see time and time again in my workshops and coaching sessions—people who can so easily give to others what they secretly long to receive for themselves.
In this same week or so I ran one of my most powerful Labs ever (near Amsterdam), had some important conversations with my daughter, reconnected with a dear old friend and started a new relationship. What these each had in common was a much greater willingness on my part to allow in the other person. As a result, I am exploring intimacy as joyful and engaged reciprocity. As meeting in the unknown with full presence. As creating moments of meeting that heal, ourselves and others.
Where can you open yourself to more intimacy in your life? Let it flow...
Dr David Drake is the founder of the field of Narrative Coaching.