What mattered was what we had in common: caring for an aging mother, honoring nature and the land, parenting a teenager these days, thinking back on simpler times, and finding a good rhythm in working together. It was a reminder again of our shared humanity and the fact that we all are seeking to meet our needs the best we know how. In breaking bread together at the edge of the pool we met as humans first and foremost, then used that trust to learn from one another. In so doing, we allowed ourselves to be changed by the conversation.
It is why we focus more on generating human experiences than on giving abstract explanations in our narrative coaching, leadership and change programs. We start from a non-judgmental position, a respect for the whole person, and an invitation to greater awareness as the prelude to growth. We enable our clients to change by not trying so hard to change, by noticing what is true right now, and by accessing what is already present. In so doing, they can free themselves from the boxes in which they place themselves and others, find common ground and develop new ways forward.
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I will be presenting a pre-conference workshop on "Using Stories to Drive Change and Employee Engagement" at the SIOP Conference next month. Find out more at http://www.siop.org/Conferences/17con/regbk/workshops/ws03.aspx
If you want to learn more about my latest work with attachment theory in coaching, listen to my interview by my fellow Fielding graduate, Dr. Katrina Burrus, MCC, on "Creating Moments of Meeting in Coaching"!
Dr David Drake is the founder of the field of Narrative Coaching.