Stories are such rich resources in coaching because they enable people to recount the story of what they lost or fear losing. In so doing, they come to better understand what they truly value and want. Their stories reflect the value that has been put at risk, their logic about how (and why) it came to be that way, and what they believe will help restore the situation. Coaching is about surfacing and then challenging their logic so they can then create openings for new stories. It is about placing their stories within new narratives that are more inclusive, expansive and generative. This is important because all to often what people initially think they want is not what they truly want.
I find in my work that there are four practices that are under-represented in coaching yet seem essential in helping people reconfiguring their stories.
Helping people deal with their unexpressed grief
Helping people deal with their unintegrated Shadow
Helping people deal with their unmetabolized fear
Helping people deal with their unactualized hope
As you are coaching, ask yourself:
What has this person lost that was important to him or her?
Which of the four practices above would be most helpful to him or her right now?
What is one act, no matter how small, that would inspire this person to reach for a new story?
REGISTRATION FOR NEXT ONLINE COURSE IS OPEN!
Getting Started with Narrative Coaching begins August 16th and runs for seven weeks! You will learn how to work with people's stories in highly experiential and transformative ways from the founder of the field. You will learn how to address many of the issues explored in this blog over these past months.
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